Something to Look Forward To

I'm gonna miss the laughs. I'm gonna miss the walks. I'm gonna miss the late nights where we talk about our future and plan a family together. I'm gonna miss how you make me feel, how we cuddle and hold each other. I'm gonna miss the petty fights. I'm gonna miss your kiss. I'm gonna miss your touch and the way you run your hands through me.

But I'm never gonna miss you.

Why? Because I ain't going nowhere. No matter where you go I'll be there. I'll be there at the airport. I'll be there when you board the plane and I'll be there once you land. I'll be there when you walk the ground trying to find your way to your new place. I'll be there at the first day of your work and everyday thereafter. I'll be with you during meal time and even after office hours. I'll be there as you try to learn your way in the office. I'll be there after you go home to help ease your fatigue. I'll be there at your nights out and when your trying to unwind. I'll be there as you discover a new city, a new culture, a new routine.

Distance is nothing. My love is far greater and longer reaching than the distance it takes to keep us apart. Never be afraid, for I will always be here for you.

Wedding Song: Treasure by Bruno Mars

Des was actually the one who suggested this. Picture our wedding entourage dancing to this song as they are introduced during the reception. Looks like a cool idea!

Treasure
by Bruno Mars

Things You Should Know About Me Before We Get Married

You've known me for more than three years now and you've been the closest person to me outside of my own family. If there's anyone that could best describe me and get along with me I know that would be you.

But I have my mood swings. I have a tendency to change my opinion and change my behavior in a snap. You probably know these things by now but it bears repeating just in case your love for me has totally blinded you of all the character flaws I have. These are the things you should know and should really reflect on before you say I do.

1. I'm really a wannabe writer. I had my first blog in 2008. We didn't even have internet that time. Every weekend I lock myself in my room doodling with a pen and constructing sentences in my head. Our trash can would largely include torn pages from my notebooks. Yes, notebooks. I think I used to have three back then. I used to write poetry. I used to write how I feel. I used to make up stories and pretend I'm a famous writer of movies. Once I finished writing something I'd type in our PC, save it in my usb, go to an internet shop and upload it in my blog. Sometimes I just upload it in friendster.

Wedding Song: Kiss Me Slowly by Parachute

There was once a time  in our relationship when we really got into this song. I first heard kiss me slowly sometime in 2012 back when our relationship looked more like a charade. We fought over the small stuff, mostly stemming from my lack of consideration to tell her what seemed to me are little things, but to her was a great big of a deal. Why am I not texting? What am I doing right now? Why am I not checking up on her? I constantly heard these questions and I felt like I was Chuck getting interrogated by the CIA and NSA. I was either sleeping, watching TV or glued at my PC so I didn't really know what the big fuss was.

Wedding Song: Sundo by Imago

Back in college, I had a friend who persistently courted our classmate for more than three years just to be her girlfriend. I really admire him for being patient and he really proved his worth to gain the trust of the girl's family. Not long after, I remember having a videoke session with them and the girl sang Imago's Sundo. That was when they announced they were officially a couple. I have since associated the song to them.

7 Marriage Myths Couples Must Never Fall Into

screengrab from Blue Valentine

There is a certain level of maturity required when getting married. At the very least, the couples should have an understanding of the lifelong commitment they will undertake.The marriage advice coming from their own parents and other married friends may have a big impact on what values they will set in their family life, but it does not mean it should be followed rigorously. Your parent's marriage is not perfect, they also have they're own flaws no matter how happy they always look. Or if you came from  a broken family,you should never ignore the lessons from their failed relationship. Do not fall into the trap of believing in the marriage myths sets by our predecessors. Here are seven of them:

1. Never go to bed angry at your spouse. We can be too tired or stressed to deal with the situation right away. Sometimes it is best to settle our emotions first before dealing with the issues the next morning. I know some relationships which regretfully ended just because the argument heated up and both the couple's emotions got out of control. What started as a petty disagreement ended in a shouting match.

Wedding Song: Here, There and Everywhere by the Beatles

When I first heard of this song back when I was in college, the first thing I thought was how I want it to be my wedding song. I'm not the most romantic guy (as I'm sure Des would attest) but I had this Ted Mosby-ish idea back then to find "the one" to whom I will devote myself until forever. Now I am 27 and I'm not searching anymore. But if there's anything that did not change it is that I still want this to be part of my wedding songs. Even McCartney lists it as one of his favorites.